Apart from my Nannas' and Mum there are women who helped me so much along the way. Enough to have a lasting influence and an impact on my whole life and my children's children!
Some I have never met. Some lived near by and helped me when the girls were little. Some I knew briefly but they had a big impact!
But there is one thing they all have in common. They were all Titus 2 women. They were all older than me and they all, in one way or another, were busy at home and teaching the younger women.
I am noticing a lot that even with Christians there are unpopular Bible verses. Anything about women seems to be socially unpopular. Yet there you go, the women who have had the most powerful impact on my life were Titus 2 women.
The cooking in this post belongs to Maria who is always cooking for her Grandchildren.
I think these are Miracle Muffins with pineapple, pumpkin seeds and coconut.
I have written before about some of the women that filled this role here. I have been so lucky with the right people at the right time in my life. Just now I am blown away actually at how blessed I am and the quality of the Titus 2 ladies that were there for me. None of these women were particularly highly educated, particularly glamorous, or anything that the world would call outstandingly "successful". They were Mum's who were ahead of me in years as a Mother and strong Christian women. They stood out above all others to me.
If you read my link above there was Dorrie who was my neighbour when Chloe was a baby. She was the next best thing to having my own Mum living over the road. I am starting to wonder if she was an angel.
Choc fudge Cookies.
And there was Phyll who was a Mum and Grandmother. She cooked, gardened and worked so hard. She opened her home once a week for the young women to come for Bible Study. All the kids were welcome! In between times if you needed help or advice she gave it. Everything she spoke was sound. She told you the truth. She was sensible and practical! She spoke with wisdom!
Online I had Laine. She was another who told it as it is. Some women wanted to argue with Laine but she stuck to what the Bible says. If you do not know Laine reading her letters is one of the best investments of your time you will ever find!
You can find her letters here starting with the article I am currently reading Her Income.
I really like women who are willing to tell you the truth. I am noticing a lot that the words of the Bible are very offensive to many people these days. I heard this... that the truth is very offensive to people who hate the truth! Well I guess so! But it takes a good friend to tell you the truth as anyone will lead you along a merry path!
Patsy is one of my friends that just reminds me of Mrs Starkey! Read her article Get a Job.
I am sure that these two women are sisters separated at birth! Yes they give it to you straight! They tell you the truth.
Thanks to the fellowship of this blog I meet a lot of women who are either younger with children or older with Grandchildren. The younger Mums need encouragement that they are doing a good job and have a very important mission.
The world is telling them they are wasting their time and talents raising their children. As older women we need to be letting them know that we know how hard it is! That they are doing a wonderful work and that the time they are in now flies past! Ages I wrote about my time when I was a single Mum and looking after the girls.... That is here... Your Time. You are laying important foundations. What you are doing will influence several generations (at least!)
The other group here are the older women, ladies with grown family and maybe Grandchildren. If you are in this group please read Laine's Letters on being a Grandmother. Calling all Older Women would be a good place to begin. But there is so much more! Probably as an "older woman" you do not realise how important you are and what a huge difference you can make!
Both my Nans worked so hard for their families. were kind and generous to everyone. They helped others, shared food and cooking. Nan L taught the new neighbours English as they knew none when they arrived traumatised in WW2. They became life long friends and like family. She was talented at baking, knitting, spinning and dying her own wool.
Nan B always said "an ounce of help is better than a pound of sympathy" and was one to send a meal. She was a talented florist. Her work appeared in many shows and books.
Someone said to me once it is a shame they didn't "work" and perhaps the world missed out because they were homemakers. Pfft! They cast so much work and influence down the line their legacies are immeasurable.
We just have to live in the season we are in! Happily when we move out of one season we move into another! Each season is beautiful! Just different!
I am just starting to realise how much the Titus 2 women that were there for me helped us. Because they helped me they helped the girls too. I am gradually realising more and more how much my Grandmothers made a difference to my life. I always knew it was enormously but even that doesn't cover it. As I get older I am realising some of what they did.
Last winter Maria made her Grand Children Monogrammed crochet blankets.
This year it is personalised scarves for winter. 💗
Kids are smart. When you make them something they see it as love!
Even Harper at three says "Nan Nan Bel MADE it for ME" I can hear Maria's Grand Children saying how their Nana made their scarves for them!
I was talking with Laine this week. She now is a Grand Mother and a Mum to Lucy who they adopted and homeschool. She helps homeschool the Grand kids as well. And she helps her parents. I saw her go from a young busy Mum to a Titus 2 woman and here I am with grown children and Grand Children too!
I asked her how does she manage so many roles? After all the first thing is to take care of our own households, husbands and children, then Grandchildren then help the other younger women...
Well lets just say life is busy! Sometimes we have to pray about how to manage our time and what our priorities are or we would never manage it all!
Softest hankies made by Mimi.
Mimi manages being a Nan and a Mum.
Her daughter at Uni is bring home new uni friends to Mimi's cooking.
And she is making cakes and gorgeous things for little Grand daughters as well!
I am noticing on social media literally thousands of chances a day to be a helpful older woman. I see young Mums asking "how do I menu plan?" and "what can I cook for dinner I have $50 left for the fortnight?" and a million such questions. There is a need everywhere for teachers, mentors, encouragers and friends. You really never know what a difference you will make. A world of difference would be my guess.
I hope your week is going well! xxx